12 Oct 2018

Going Sober in 2018

I write this fuelled by a beer, this beer has 0.0% alcohol in it. I know, what's the point? Well I'm trying this thing called 'Sober October'. The theory is that it takes a month to break a habit. But a habit, that's like an addiction right? I'm 25, I like to go out drinking with my mates, I'm not addicted to alcohol, that doesn't make me an alcoholic... or does it? The dictionary definition of Alcoholism is an addiction to the consumption of alcoholic drink; alcohol dependency. How many of us can confidently say we can go on a night out, to a party, go out for dinner, go to a festival and watch our favourite bands without a alcoholic drink? In the time that I've taken up this 'challenge' of not drinking I have been commended by several different people on how great it is that I can do that. Now correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't that sound like we be out here 'depending' on alcohol for these social events? No? I must be confused, it's all this non-alcoholic beer I'm drinking killing my brain cells... oh wait. 

The point I'm making is that socialising in 2018 as a grown adult and drinking alcohol come hand in hand. I can count on my hand the number of people that I know who don't drink and I can't remember the last time I went to a gig and didn't have a beer, so when did this happen? When did a wholesome meal with mates turn into three bottles of wine and a headache the next day? For one, I blame University. Nearly all my mates went to Uni and we have all come out the other side with livers of steel and a whole heap of debt. I was at my peak in my second year where we were going out 3 days a week (and I mean out out, none of this civilised drinks shit) and the other four days were recovery days. Funnily enough I got super depressed in my second year and used going out as a way to medicate... I'm sure the two aren't connected. 

Secondly, being a grown ass adult. You have responsibilities, suddenly you go from sleeping in till 4 on a Tuesday to working 9-5, five days a week, you're always tired, you're always stressed and there's nothing better than winding down with a wine or a beer, right? I live in MCR city centre and the way the bars fill up every evening I know it's not only me who uses alcohol to unwind. Also related to this, most people will have a wage at this point, if you've got money in your pocket what's stopping you from going for a few drinks? 

Thirdly, the social aspect of drinking. From dating apps to socialising with colleagues, alcohol can be the perfect elixir for making these potentially 'awkward' social situations a hell of a lot easier. Trying to chat with Karen in accounts about her new cat Harold, suddenly becomes the easiest thing ever, you're talking about how much you always wanted a bengal mix but you're horrendously allergic, that one time your whole throat closed up... hilarious. Or you're on a date with a guy who doesn't look anything like the pictures on Bumble, it doesn't matter you're chatty and he's moderately funny and he's starting to become far more attractive as the wine goes down.

Basically I didn't think I knew how to be social without drinking. It turns out a no-alcohol fuelled me is actually just as awesome as drunk me, just probably less embarrassing. So yes bartender at a certain bar in Deansgate that will not be named, you should be putting non-alcoholic versions of your drinks for sale, don't scoff when I ask for a non-alcoholic beer and don't ever charge me £5 for a glass of pineapple juice again! I'm not saying I'll never have a drink again, but my short time not drinking has proven that I don't need to drink again and that's pretty awesome. 

Lauren Eliza x

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  1. Go you! To be honest I’m drinking a lot less these days. My job doesn’t allow for hangovers, and some weekends are all about sorting the house rather than going out. Keep it up! Oh and if you get a chance try a cocktail with seedlip in it, it’s an alcohol free spirit and it’s lovely :)

  2. Yes! I get laughed at when i suggest a non alcoholic beer too, why is that so weird? I mean we drink decaf coffee and sugar free Pepsi's right?
    Alcohol is for sure a way to unwind and i am still trying to kick that habit so i only have respect for you doing this challenge!

  3. That’s amazing! I’d love to try this. Does the non-alcoholic beer taste the same? Think I’ll have to try this in November to prepare my Liver for Christmas!